We've all heard of Bridezilla
We've all heard of Bridezilla
May 4, 2005Posted By weddings
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But what about Momzilla? An article at pittsburghlive.com reminded me of this not-as-rare-as-it-should-be creature.
Quoting the article:
There's the mother-in-law who not-so-nonchalantly suggests she join the honeymoon soiree. The mother-in-law who leaves diet recipes laying around the kitchen so "you can fit in your wedding dress." The mother-in-law who refuses to take down prom pictures and vacation photos with your fiance's ex-girlfriend in them.
The rest of the article is here: Beware the Momzilla! - PittsburghLIVE.com
Momzilla isn't just a mother-in-law either. Even the most reasonable mothers can become unbearable during the wedding planning phase. They've been waiting for this day just as long as you have.
Momzilla is a problem sometimes when shopping for wedding dresses. Frowning at the dresses you do like, and encouraging you to try on styles that you know will not work for you. Making comments and pushing your buttons like only a mother could. Taming the monster is a difficult task, but like all other things in your wedding, it will help you grow into a stronger, better person.
If Mom is a problem when shopping for dresses, don't bring her along. Try to get a little shopping done without her and potentially include her again when you have a better idea of what you like. Like most humans, moms like to be involved. Task her with other things so that she doesn't notice her lack of inclusion during the wedding dress selection process. Send her out to interview florists or photographers. Have her sit down with magazines and tear out or bookmark photos of dresses and bouquets that interest you.
If you can't get out of bringing her along, you have three choices: confrontation, social distraction or submission. Any one of them can be effective, but the right thing to do is really something only you can answer. Confrontation is scary sometimes, but many people don't realize they are being unreasonable. It doesn't have to be dramatic, it can be a plain conversation telling her that she is not being as helpful as you know she wants to be. Social Distraction is a good one for those moms who might not be so confrontable (either because their reaction will be too much or they are a little too sensitive to deal with it). Bring a bridesmaid or two or three or eight along and task them with keeping mom occupied while you get down to the nitty gritty. Submission is for those of us out there who know that smiling and sucking it up now will pay dividends in the long run. It's strategy, not spinelessness :).
