Wedding invitations - Is there always an argument?

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I don't know about you, but when we were planning our wedding we seemed to always argue when it came to the guest list and who to invite. I spoke to good friends about this, they agreed and said that it happened during their own preparations as well. So if it always happens, what are we to do about it? Surely two grown ups can agree amicably who to invite to a wedding?

Well, in truth it should be easy. It is after all just a simple case of man writing down his list of friends and family and whom he would like to invite and then woman doing the same. Unfortunately, things can never be as simple as this. We are hampered by a restriction in size, time to cross some people from the list. By our dislike of certain individuals, again time to cross some people from the list. Hang on; these people here did not invite us to their wedding, more names being crossed out. Before long, it becomes a battle. Too many guests from the man's side have been removed from the list, how is that fair? What about these two people, we've not heard from them for years. Oh I see, they always give a large wedding gift?

Sorting out a list of guests to invite to a wedding is tantamount to advanced politics. We worry about the affect we will have on people's feelings and how we might be perceived. The truth is that a wedding day is YOUR day; it should be your choice as to whom you invite. An invitation should be because you value this person's company and would like them there to share the most important day of your life.

A general rule of thumb when inviting friends or co-workers is to think how much time you spend with them socially. If you only spend time with them at work, you might well consider other friends.

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