Question: Are there books that can help?
Question: Are there books that can help?
April 11, 2005Posted By weddings
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Are there books that can help me out with writing my own vows?
The subject of writing wedding vows is at least briefly covered in most books about wedding planning.
What follows is a list of books specific to wedding vows, and some comments that we've found on them. Of course these are just a few of the countless books available.
Wedding Vows: How to Express Your Love in Your Own Words by Peg Kehret
Price: About 9 dollars, less than 2 dollars used
Summary:
This 112 page book includes sixty-three vows and declarations of love. It suggests how to work with your pastor, what to include in your vows and how to write your own. The suggested vows are in both monolog and dialog form. They are short enough to be easily memorized.
Positive Comments:
This was extremely helpful in giving me ideas on how to express my feelings when I got married two years ago. I knew what I wanted to say and it gave me enough imput to get my own thoughts together and come up with something from the heart.
By combining parts from the many sections, my fiancee and I were able to come up with truly individual vows that said exactly what we wanted without being overly sappy. My fiancee is an older gentleman who is very plain spoken and he had no trouble finding exactly what he wanted to say. All in all this book was a wonderful reference guide.
Negative Comments:
I did not find this book very helpful! The sample vows and promises did not seem very realistic to me. Most of them are in dialog form, and I've never been to a wedding where the bride and groom exchange vows/promises alternating line by line with eachother. I'd keep looking if I were you, that's what I'll be doing.
For as Long as we Both Shall Live by Roger Fritts
Price: About 10 dollars, less than 2 dollars used
Summary:
Includes all kinds of options for both traditional and nontraditional weddings, it includes all the basic parts of Protestant, Catholic, and Jewish ceremonies as well as ideas for readings from the Old and New Testaments and from Hebrew Scriptures, as well as from the works of writers and poets. Also included are services appropriate for interfaith marriages and passages that include families and children from previous marriages.
Positive:
As a minister who has officiated at over three hundred weddings, I have found this book to be extremely useful in helping couples select wedding materials which reflect their own relationship. The wedding service is broken into parts and couples are given many contemporary, as well as religious, materials to use in each part. The end result: couples who feel that they understand every thing that is being said, and feel closer because together they selected the materials. Couples from different religious backgrounds have told me they specially found it useful in understanding their partner's values, goals for life, and understanding of marriage. It is a must for couples who seek to use the wedding service to deepen their relationship.
Negative:
The author includes Catholic, Protestant, Jewish and Contemporary ceremonies, it is just too much. My cousin gave me the book and she loved it, I however did not. I guess it just depends on your taste. She had a much more traditional wedding than I want, so it worked better for her.
